Long Island Marriage Counseling – What to Expect

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Long Island Marriage Counseling Center at Huntington, NY

– Below is a letter to a prospective client. I have included it here to give you a sense of what you can expect at the Long Island Marriage Counseling Center.

Hi Helen,

Thanks for responding. I am so happy for you that you and your husband are committed to going forward and resolving the issues
in your marriage. I will attempt to answer your questions below. You can find out more information at Long Island Marriage Counseling, especially by reading the blogs and articles.

Long Island Marriage Counseling Center Approach

My Long Island Marriage Counseling practice is in Huntington Village on Prospect Street in a beautiful calm environment. My goal for you is to help you resolve the issues that are stopping you from engaging in a satisfying and mutually nurturing relationship that works for the two of you. That means that we start with assessment. You each already know what is not working in your relationship. I need to find that out and to conceptualize the issues in a way that points to what has to change.

I look for the key core issues and patterns that need to change in the relationship to get you both what you want.

In almost all cased, I help both individuals look at themselves as well as each other for what is not working. Almost always one or both individuals need to make some adjustments in their beliefs and thinking, ways of handling emotions and behavior patterns in order for the two to be able to have a mature and satisfying relationship based on mutual cooperation.

So specifically, I will be working with you to:

* Assess the core of what needs to change to make your relationship work

* Help you to understand the patterns, rather than allow you to simple battle out each issue in therapy

* Help you to understand not only the patterns, but also the other’s specific point of view in regard to the other – to build empathy and mutuality

* Neither blame nor judge but figure out what must change

* Help you both to make those changes in core patterns that will result in a reciprocal and loving relationship

* Monitor your progress and keep you on track

I use whatever works to bring you to a feeling of satisfaction and completion with the therapeutic process. Sometimes I will see you together – And I might need to see you separately on occasion to gain a deeper understanding or help each of you with an issue that is affecting the relationship.

I sometimes use exercises to speed up change in patterns, when appropriate. I also give homework at times to speed up change in patterns. It is never canned but is based on the needs of your relationship as they emerge.

Let me give you an example of a couple I am working with now:

The wife sees what is wrong in every situation and sends the husband commands of what to do to fix it. He deeply resents being constantly told he is wrong and what he should do differently but does not stand up to her directly.

Instead he makes choices (like being late or choosing the wrong chemical to fix something in the house) that are guaranteed to drive her wild with anger so that she looks like the bad one and the control freak.

I am helping each of them to see their parts in this extreme marriage situation and they are each beginning to change, as well as to be more considerate and understanding of the
other.

At the beginning of therapy, they were asked to each write down the three key things their spouse needed to change in order for each to be satisfied… and the three key things that their spouse needed them to change. That became the core of the therapeutic exploration and exercises, as well as a way of checking back on progress
And results.

I hope this example makes sense and gives you some insight into my style. I have been doing marriage counseling and individual therapy for over 35 years and am also a professor of psychology. My practice is extensive and has included many, many couples over the years. After receiving my doctorate in psychology, my postdoctoral training included a three year program at the Center for Family Learning where I specialized in marital therapy and marriage counseling.

Long Island Marriage Counseling Center Contact

– Please let me know if you have any further questions. I look forward to working with you as your questions are intelligent and informed which makes working together much easier. If you would like to speak on the phone or make an appointment, give me a call at 631-553-1476 and I will either pick up or you can leave me a message.

Warmly, Diane

Dr. Diane Kramer, Psychologist
Long Island Marriage Counseling Center
76 Prospect St.
Huntington, NY 11743
631-553-1476